What would it be like to radically accept yourself right this moment? To accept yourself today, no matter what you have or haven’t achieved, no matter what you wish was the case, no matter what mistake or humiliation you just experienced.
What would it feel like to stumble one minute, and the next minute have enough compassion for yourself to say- so what?
In a culture obsessed with “doing” and “achieving,” it can be very difficult to learn to accept yourself today, simply as is. There is a palpable peace when you can accept you, the good and the bad, regardless of circumstance. I say this from a very personal place. One of my heavily ingrained life patterns was to "achieve" in order to feel validated and worthwhile.
If I could achieve, I could pull energy externally from the world of validation, and translate that directly into feeling good about myself. It’s still a dangerous pattern I can slip back into if not careful. The problem is, when you’re plugging into “things” on the outside to sustain your sense of self, things can be very unpleasant on the inside. It’s a rollercoaster ride. That is a very slippery slope. So, when things were good, I felt great about myself. But when things were bad, a heavy insecurity was looming on the inside and I constantly felt I wasn’t good enough.
This pattern may sound all too familiar. We have learned